Dominican Republic

When the going gets tough, the tough get going.

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This title is what came to mind this morning. Last night Rio said he wanted to go home. We went away for the weekend to be with family. It was a 4 hour ride from door to door, there and back. Rio is a home body, he definitely does not have my lust for adventure. So even though we had a mini vacation from our new life, it was a distraction. As we have been homeschooling for awhile now and as we have 3 boys, finding the balance between freedom and military academy is where we are at.

Our daily routine, walk 8 minutes from door to metro.

This “thing”, I knew it would come, just a matter of when. After he said “I want to go home”, I wasn’t sure how to respond. I know it is an ever fleeting feeling, “home”. But I am his mom and this was my response, “the newness and excitement of being here is over, now comes the hard part”. He said nothing. When we got in bed, we are sharing a room with twin beds, I asked him if he wanted to talk, he said nothing.

These are a few sweet moments of the kids laughing- this morning before practice.

He woke up a lot last night- me, trying not to worry, kept those feelings to myself. This morning he got ready like regular. We went to practice and all seemed regular. The feelings of last night dissipated. What was different about today is that he earned something. Three weeks in and he is hitting the ball and one of the trainers commented, he asked me if I was happy with Rio’s new swing. Rio is trainable. Imagine a pitch that he is used to, maybe 60 miles an hour. Now during his practice the kids are pitching 80 miles and up. He is learning how to see that ball, it has been a challenge for him.

The swing.

As we are so in sync as a family, it is no surprise to me the Adoni started acting up yesterday. I asked Luis if he had eaten too much sugar. But the reality is 3 weeks into our new life is a challenge for us. Luis signed Adoni up for kickboxing training at Acension gym. He can go 5 days a week if he wants. Hopefully this will help Adoni stay focused and not feel out of control. Adoni was free roaming in Dominican Republic, running for 1.5 months, every day, all day. He needs some grounding right now.

Adoni’s first day at the gym- Kickboxing training.

This place is huge!

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We are in week 2 of m-f training here at Estadio Olímpico. This place is huge! Rio and I both got lost yesterday. He was in one place with the trainer and the other kids, and I was in another place. I decided to take a seat on a bench near a guy who was getting a full body massage on a table, on the sidewalk. I do not have a picture of that, imagine that open air massage. I choose that spot as I thought of safety and sort of close to where I thought Rio was. I eventually did find him, he was running in the track and field area. But then I lost him again, so I decided to stay put. We are in communication via the app What’s app. So no worries, but back to the point this place is huge and it is primarily a guy’s world here.

My view every morning

While sitting on the bench, a wee one also sitting, maybe 2 or 3 years old, started crying. He is the son of the massage therapist? Three young men were walking by and in typical Dominican fashion, one young man started talking to the little kid in the sweet, con cariño, way that everyone here talks to little people, or anybody for that matter. The three young men sat down between me and the little kid. And so began the conversation with these two.

Ferdy and Wilfry

In that moment I felt a bit off because I was not in sight of my son. That feeling dissipated after I started talking to these guys. They are training for the Olympics in track and field. I am not sure how old they are. Wilfry runs 800 meters and Ferdy 400. I enjoyed our conversation as I always enjoy meeting new people. I think you know this by now. I am and feel vulnerable as I am in the huge new place basically with all men. And these kids are vulnerable as they are young and ready to take on the world- naive? When I say vulnerable I don’t mean crippled with fear. Who wouldn’t be vulnerable in a new place, mostly men and in a country speaking a different language? Equally who wouldn’t be vulnerable chasing dreams at a young age. There is power and vulnerability in both those positions. Outside of meeting up in the same place we, me and these 2 guys, have nothing in common. They asked me if I was an athlete. Ha. Well, I trained for a marathon twice, that is called giving birth naturally. But no I am not an athlete.

Inspirational

I wasn’t 100% myself yesterday, my day started with a highly caffeinated coffee. It has been months since I had a coffee like that. So I did not think with a photo/documentary mind and didn’t take a picture of the guys. I was so angry with myself. Today in an effort to find them and take their picture because I want to remember them, I found these two running the track. Awesome and inspirational. To my surprise the boys found me! They wanted to say hi. Which this moment had me dancing inside with joy. Simple things in life can make me happy. I am trying to not cry as I write this.

In another blog post I want to talk about where and with who my photographic career started. My heart has always had a sweet spot for boys and it took me years to understand why.

Baseball, Dominican Style

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Rio wants to learn with the best. Can you blame him? So yes, very swiftly, we made a decision to move half our family to Santo Domingo which will allow Rio to train 5 days a week. The opportunity presented itself and he grabbed it. We are supporting it. The privilege of homeschooling allowed us to make this decision.
Are there good trainers in the USA, of course. There are two things I want to list here for you to think about, money and happiness.
Money is needed to train and to play, here, there and everywhere. There is no baseball guide that will show us how to get from point A to point B. We are not part of a “club” either. The point is we were spending money running in circles, which left none of us feeling good. We, the parents and children have met good people along the way, don’t get me wrong. However, what ever it is that we have been looking for concerning the kids and baseball seemed to be out of reach.
You know when you feel good and you just know when something is right? It that happiness? Well the day we decided to meet some trainers here in DR, we went to the fields, I felt it- happiness. Most importantly Rio felt it. The kids were on the field playing their hardest but with joy. That is contagious. Can you blame him for wanting to be a part of that?
We brought up our kids bicultural and bilingual. They may look like gringos, but their hearts are here in DR – happiness.

The day we found baseball happiness.

Play #1

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My new friend, Andres.

The kindness of this man made me feel good, human. It is no small task to do what we are doing. Yesterday he approached me and asked me about my son and so began the conversation. This is not to say that I haven’t spoke with anyone else here, I have- the kids- wow. However, I would like to talk about this man. Su forma a decir, the way he spoke to me, speaks to me. It was easy. His sweetness reminded me of how I felt in this country long ago, people with open arms. He has been cleaning Play #1 for 30 years. He arrives around 6 and leaves around 12, even though he should “work” til 4. His area is the cleanest, well noted. He earns 11,000.00 pesos a month. You do the math.
I want to know, if I showed up as a stranger, one that clearly sticks out, to the field back in my home town of Bristol, CT, would the maintenance man come up to me and start talking, get me a chair to sit in and look after me? Maybe Matt N.
We stick out, it is very clear we are foreigners. Andres embodies all that is good about this place.

The First Day

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As it is normal to me that things work when they want to here in Dominican Republic, we did not get to take the Metro yesterday because there was no power in that part of the city. The reason for wanting to do it yesterday was for us to know the route we need to take to get to the Estadio Olímpico where Rio is training. This morning, in order to make things easier we took a taxi, not an Uber because it would cost more money during traffic time, and we did not take a chance with the metro as we didn’t have time for mistakes. We left at 8:15 maybe 8:20 and arrived at 9:10. Clearly taking the Metro makes more sense as it is a 15 minute ride. Rio needs to be at practice by 9:00am. For the kid that doesn’t like to be late, we arrived late, still he was in good spirits.
His practice was exactly that, practice, nothing particularly special. However, listening to “everything baseball” in Spanish had to have had an impact. Lots of young men were there. This had an impact on me. Everyone was nice and even shy. Boys this age are still so vulnerable. More about the kids in another blog post.
Can we admit that in moments like this, the first day, people can be nervous, I was. Rio in his cool, 14 year old self, was more excited than nervous. Even though Rio was stung by a bee, he survived his first practice. After practice we took the Metro home, a 15 minute ride, easy.